Human love and love divine

There are two types of love: human love and love divine. With divine love, we go first to the root, the One, the Source, and from there we go to the many, the branches and leaves, the flowers and fruits. Divine love is the song of multiplicity in unity.

In human love there is demand, or at least expectation. Very often we start with demand. Even when a higher wisdom dawns, we still expect something from others. We convince ourselves that this expectation is justified. Since we have done something for others — offered our love — we feel it is quite legitimate to expect something in return.

But in divine love there is no such thing as demand or expectation. In divine love we just give and give. In the human life, before we give our love, we try to discover others’ love for us. In the divine life, before we give our love to others, we try to discover love in its reality and integrality within ourselves. Only then are we in a position to offer love to others. At first, our satisfaction dawns when we feel that those to whom we offer our love accept it wholeheartedly. But there is an even higher form of divine love when we go beyond this feeling, and give love just for the sake of self-giving. We give, and even if our love is not accepted, we do not mind. We shall go on giving, for our Source is all Love.

In human love there is not only demand and expectation, but there is something even worse: withdrawal. First we demand, then we expect. When our expectation is not fulfilled, we try to withdraw from the person to whom we have offered our love. In divine love, it is never like that. With divine love we try to become one with the imperfections of others. In this way we can understand them and serve them with a view to transforming their imperfections.

In human love there is often a feeling of supremacy. “I shall love you, no doubt, but I wish to remain an inch higher than you.” The superior loves the inferior because he is satisfied with his position in this relationship. The inferior very often loves the superior because of his insecurity. So human love binds them and gives them both some sense of satisfaction. But in divine love there is no such thing as superiority and inferiority. Divine love always gives itself freely and wholeheartedly.

In human love, very often the physical mind, the doubting mind, the suspecting mind, comes to the fore. But in divine love, we see only the loving heart. The mind loves a reality because it sees the reality according to its own understanding and vision. But the heart loves a reality because it sees the reality in the reality’s own form.

In human love, we feel that satisfaction lies somewhere else — not within us, but in somebody else. Very often frustration comes because we feel that somebody else is not giving us the love we need or want.

But in divine love, satisfaction is found nowhere else but in ourselves. The lover and the Beloved are one and the same — the Supreme dwelling within us and the Supreme outside us.

From the One we came and for the many we exist. This is the quintessence of love divine.

Sri Chinmoy, Love.First published by Agni Press in 2006.

This is the 3030th book that Sri Chinmoy has written since he came to the West, in 1964.


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