Sri Chinmoy: In the ordinary life, not only marriage, but every activity sets the wheel of karma into motion. For example, if you think of something or someone other than God, then karma is already created. Normally in marriage, the individual karma of each party becomes joined into a whole which they naturally share. The woman offers the man all her soul’s capacities and strengths, but she also gives him the effects of her accumulated actions and thoughts — her karma. The reverse is just as true. And when the parents bring down more souls in the form of children, the children’s karma is added to their own.
Without being married, you have so many problems. You may believe that getting married will solve all your problems. Or you may say, “I am a hero; I shall conquer her problems.” She, on her part, may think, “I am a heroine; I shall conquer his problems.” But this is coming from a sense of ego.
Most marriages are founded either on the need to assuage loneliness or on the need to fulfil the demands of the lower vital. Marriage may or may not be compatible with the spiritual life in any particular case. Some souls feel that through marriage they will be able to make faster progress, while others feel that marriage will be a hindrance to their spiritual progress. I often say that single people can run the fastest in the spiritual life. But God and the individual souls must make the decision, not the human mind.