The transcendence of sex

Do not try to suppress sex. With your inner wisdom, inner experience and inner light, sex can be transcended, and it has to be. But by fighting, struggling and suppressing it, sex cannot be conquered. The easiest way to transcend something is to pay no attention to it, to feel that it is unnecessary. If you think that it is necessary, then it comes to tempt you, and you will feel that you are caught. If you want to conquer your desires, there is only one thing to do. You have to pay more attention to the light, in a positive way. But not by hook or by crook! If you try to subdue your vital urges in any kind of repressive way, then you will never be able to conquer this physical need. You have to open yourself towards the light and reach or feel the light within you. By thinking constantly of your desires, vital, sex life, you will never be able to conquer them. It is impossible. Even if you want to think of them with a view to conquering them, you are making a mistake. But think of the other things — light, joy — which you need and which you actually want. Through concentration and meditation you can have inner joy and inner light. You will try to bring them into your gross physical, and your physical being will also feel divine Joy and divine Light. At that time the life of destructive pleasure will leave you and the life of fulfilling joy will embrace you.

From:Sri Chinmoy,Beyond Within — A collection of writings 1964-1974, Agni Press, 1975
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