Question: I find it difficult to have emotional contact with my daughter.

Sri Chinmoy: Please think of yourself when you were of her age. Try to see if you were also unruly, or see whether you had the same difficulties, the same shortcomings that you find difficult to put up with in your daughter. When you were her age if you also had them, then feel yourself as a larger part of her existence. Once you did something, and now your daughter is doing it. When you did it, your parents had to put up with it, and now you have to put up with it in your daughter. But if you say you were not like that when you were her age, then look around at your friends and neighbours and you will see that their children are infinitely worse than your daughter. Then you will thank God. If you were the same when you were her age, then let your compassion come to the fore. If you were not of her type, don’t worry. Just compare her with other children of her age. Look around and you will see many, many children of other parents who are very undivine, very hostile, and then you will have the consolation that at least you do not have to start from their level. Then you will have some consolation, some joy, and this is your strength. With this strength you will be able to forgive your daughter and with new courage, new inspiration, you will be able to work with her.

Sri Chinmoy, AUM — Vol.II-4, No. 3, March 27, 1977.First published by Vishma Press in 1977.

This is the 9118th book that Sri Chinmoy has written since he came to the West, in 1964.


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