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Four intimate friends: insincerity, impurity, doubt and self-indulgence
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. Published on srichinmoylibrary.com with the permission of Sri Chinmoy. This is the 332nd book written by Sri Chinmoy after he came to the West in 1964.
Table of Contents
Part I: Emotion, detachment and attachment
Question: In our daily life, are we supposed to suppress our emotions?
Question: I have trouble with emotions and bad thoughts. They attack me and when I try to fight them off, they become stronger.
Question: We usually think that we are attached only to someone we like. But we can also be attached to somebody we dislike. How can we detach ourselves from a person we dislike?
Part II: Psychic depression and vital depression
Question: When something in the world bothers me, I lose all my sincerity and become depressed.
Question: What causes depression?
Question: Guru, do you ever feel depressed?
Question: Guru, when you see our states of mind and our moods, do you see us as a sort of composite or average of what we were during the day, or do you see us as we are at that moment?
Question: In psychology there's a symptom called manic depression where first of all the person is very lively and gay and then he becomes depressed. Sometimes I've noticed this in disciples because it seems to be part of the human psyche. What can we do to break the cycle?
Question: If we feel elated or depressed and we don't know the reason for it, can there be an inner reason?
Question: How can I control my moods?
Question: How can we have a wonderful meditation one day and then the very next day a terrible one?
Question: What should we do if we are struggling and, at the same time, losing the quality of joy in our lives?
Question: Sometimes I feel much devotion towards you, and at other times I feel very far away from you, almost unspiritual.
Question: I've been trying to meditate for some months now, but have been troubled by restlessness and depression.
Part III: Four intimate friends: Insincerity, impurity, doubt and self-indulgence
Question: Even though I have accepted the spiritual life, I still have doubts. Why is this, Guru?
Question: Sometimes when I am attacked by doubt, my first reaction is that I won't let it enter. But it comes back every five minutes. I want to know what is the best thing to do to put it away permanently.
Question: Is not the absence of doubt the same thing as unquestioning faith?
Question: What is the best way for me to conquer doubt?
Question: How can one transcend the self-indulgence that interferes with duty?
Part IV: Jealousy and personality conflicts
Question: What is the difference between jealousy and admiration?
Question: I was wondering about jealousy. Sometimes I try to convince myself that it doesn't matter if you show more attention to somebody else but it doesn't work.
Question: Guru, one thing that really often ruins my morning and my whole day is very negative feelings against one or two disciples. A few months ago you said to try to think of their divine qualities, but I haven't been able to do it successfully.
Question: How can your spiritual children help one another to overcome jealousy and other undivine qualities?
Question: How can we avoid minor personality conflicts?
Question: What should our attitude be in regard to the competitive spirit?
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